Unfortunately this 'how to' also involves female stereotypes but, eh, what can you do?  

This character 要 - has several different meanings but this is how I remember the more dominant use as a fourth tone, yào.  Generally it means (to) want something or for something to be vital / important.

The character has two parts.  The bottom is 女 nǚ, which represents a woman.

The top part of the character looks like a purse.

Of course, a purse is important to a woman and is something they want.  

要 - yào - want / important

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